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On Family

When young people are depressed, many of them turn to their friends for help. And others turn to the internet. Okay so what if they turn to the internet? What if they look for validation among people unknown to them?

The reality is that people tend to open up when they’re sad and that openness leads to vulnerability.

But that’s not my only point. I’m trying to get somewhere with this. When these young people lock themselves up into their own worlds (whether that be the virtual world or that of intoxication), they are consequently distancing themselves from the people who love them most-their family members.

Yes it’s true that sometimes your family does wrong you and sometimes they are the cause of your stress, but if you do not make the effort to improve your relations with them, you will always be miserable.

We always hear in Islam the importance of family ties and the danger of breaking them. Your emotional isolation may or may not count as breaking family ties, but stop for a second and think what your dad must be feeling when he asks you what you did at school and you say “nothing” or how your mom must be forcing herself to eat when you didn’t come down to dinner. Imagine what your younger brother must be feeling when you refuse to play a game of basketball with him or what your younger sister must be feeling when you refuse to read her a bedtime story.

If you’re a person who doesn’t spend much time with your family, set aside a day of your week only for them and see how happy you become. That happiness is not coincidental; it is a result of the blessings that Allah has put in spending time with your family.

Abu Hurairah narrated that the Messenger of Allah said:
“Learn enough about your lineage to facilitate keeping your ties of kinship. Forindeed keeping the ties of kinship encourages affection among the relatives, increases the wealth, and increases the lifespan.” Jami’ At-Tirmidhi (Hasan)
Abu Ayyub al-Ansari told him that a bedouin came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, while he was travelling. He asked, “Tell me what will bring me near to the Garden and keep me far from the Fire.” He replied,“Worship Allah and do not associate anything with Him, perform the prayer, pay zakat, and maintain ties of kinship.” (Al-Adab al-Mufrad)
Disclaimer: If you suffering from physical, mental or emotional abuse from your family or you need to be away from them for a while, that’s completely fine and you may even need to seek help from outside sources like a mentor, counselor or the authorities. What I meant by depression in this post was probably the minor kind, or the everyday struggles that keep us from giving time to our family. We all know ourselves better than others and May Allah rectify our affairs.

One Little Good Deed

One little good deed; don’t underestimate its power.

I remember once I was ranting on about my messed up sleep schedule on facebook and my friend linked me to a video about the Sunnah sleeping habits and that video changed my life. Obviously I haven’t changed things around completely but at least I now make an effort. She’s getting part of the reward for that.

Another time, one of my friends posted a lecture about Uthman (R) on her blog and I listened to it and it brought me closer to Allah. I had seen that lecture on youtube before but hadn’t listened to it. Maybe Allah wanted me to hear it through her.

Another time I met a lady at the masjid whose house I had gone to for a Sisters’ Halaqah months earlier, and she told me that when she first saw me, she had made du’a for me that Allah opens up my heart to wear niqab. And SubhanAllah, that really touched me so much! So now she’s getting a share in the reward whenever I wear my niqab.

Don’t ever underestimate the power of a small good deed, because through the benefits that others’ receive, it is Sadaqah Jari’ah for you!

Abu Dharr (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said, “Do not disdain a good deed, (no matter how small it may seem) even if it is your meeting with your (Muslim) brother with a cheerful face.” (Muslim)

Good People, Good Stuff

Sometimes the best books, websites, blogs, media sources, institutions, etc. have all been introduced to me by my friends. Alhamdulillah for good friends and good company (and yes, this includes social media!)

Narrated Abu Hurayrah (R): The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said:

“A man follows the religion of his friend; so each one should consider whom he makes his friend.”

-Sunan Abi Dawud

The Days of Calm

Some days are so hectic and stressful that I become moody and start giving the people around me some attitude, especially my brother Abdullah. He’s the recipient of the coldest of my behavior. I feel really bad about it later on, but thank Allah that’s he such a good sport. He comes around with his never-ending stories and breaks the ice quicker than I ever thought possible. But this is not about that.

This is an appreciation post.

A few weeks back, I was *forced* to contemplate on my behavior with my family and as it turns out, I was wrong and my dad was right, although there are still many things that could use some sorting out. This Ramadan was probably not the extreme-soul-cleansing, iman-boosting Ramadan that I was hoping for, but I do think that it changed me for the better and made my relationship better with both my parents. I never appreciated my dad in my whole life the way I do now. I never realized how dependent on him I really am. But I realized that some of my most important du’as came true this Ramadan as well. Allah is so Merciful that I feel overwhelmed when I think about the way He blesses us and guides us.

We all know that hidayah is from Allah and it is only through His Guidance that we are even able to do good deeds, but one timeless piece of advice that I’d give to anyone is that no matter how sinful you are or how many people you have wronged, never stop making du’a to Allah and begging Him to guide you and help you. And never, ever stop worshiping Him-its not your choice anyway; Allah made it obligatory. Pray your salawat, read Qur’an and develop a relationship with the Qur’an. The worship will take over your desires; the du’as will ease your burden and remind you that you do not have to face anything alone.

Allah is happy with the people who call upon Him and He is unhappy with those who don’t make du’a. It’s your choice what you want to do.

Another reason that I feel grateful right now is because of a sad video that I came across on Tumblr. I’ll post it later inshaAllah, but the point of the video was to showcase the sadness of a family upon the unjustified arrest of their innocent son who has been in prison for 7 years with no apparent chance of being released soon. Something about that video made my heart sink; it was one of things where you literally feel like you’re going to be physically sick due to someone else’s sadness being weighed on your shoulders.

I then reflected on my blessings; who cares if I don’t live in the ideal family? Who cares if everything doesn’t go my way? Allah gave me life and He gave me Al-Islam and that is enough to prove that Allah wants good for me. We learn about having “husn ud-dhan” (good/positive thinking) towards people, then why not towards Allah?

Self-delusion is often the result of thinking that others owe us something (e.g. respect, service, obedience, etc.) and that we are fine just the way we are. We only refine our character when we tell ourselves that we are in need of improvement and that others are in fact better than us. The way we look at others is a direct reflection of the state of our hearts.

It’s not uncommon for people to wait for some big event to take place so they can start changing themselves for the better (e.g. graduation, marriage, Hajj, age 40 or 60 or whatever) but those are nothing but lies that are perpetuated internally, leading people to more sin and misguidance. The more we disobey Allah, the more we distance ourselves from guidance but as long as we keep asking Him and begging Him to guide us on the Straight Path, He won’t let us go, because He is Ar-Rahman, Ar-Raheem.


I want to end this post with the story of my favorite du’a. I never thought that this du’a would become my favorite but it did. I never intentionally added it to my mental du’a list, but it was a habit of mine to say it whenever I lost something (or did the people around me).

When I was 4 years old, I once went grocery shopping with my parents and bought some peppermint candies (yum!) and then I misplaced the bag. I asked my dad where it could have gone, (and I still haven’t figured out whether or not he hid the bag on purpose) and he said, “Let’s say a du’a that you’re supposed to say when you lose something. Repeat after me: Inna liAllahi wa inna ilayhi raji’oon.” Then, he and I looked all over the living room and I found it on top of a high drawer. Then my dad told me, “See? When you say this du’a, Allah let’s you find what you lost.” So I grew up thinking that this is the “lost & found” du’a and later on, when I heard people saying it upon hearing about someone’s death, I was like, “Okay, this is the death du’a.” And then when I became capable of roughly understanding the meaning of the Qur’an without looking at the translation, I heard it in the context of the ayat surrounding it and I was like “Wow, that’s nice” but I had never really let it sink in. Then finally, I learned the ayat in detail in my Tafseer class and my entire perspective changed. Allah (SWT) said in Surah Al-Baqarah:

“And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient. Who, when disaster strikes them, say, “Indeed we belong to Allah , and indeed to Him we will return.” Those are the ones upon whom are blessings from their Lord and mercy. And it is those who are the [rightly] guided.” (2: 155-157)

This ayah first lists the different types of things that human beings will be tested by, so basically it is affirming that tests and trials are a part of every person’s life and there is no way of escaping them, but Allah describes the reactions of a certain group of people to these tests. He says that they have the quality of patience. How do they act upon that quality? The first thing they do is that they recite the following du’a: “Inna liAllahi wa inna ilayhi raji’oon” (Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return)

A person who says this du’a is doing two things:

First, he’s affirming the validity of Allah’s decree upon him through these beautiful words, thus increasing his patience and level of tolerance.

Second, he’s comforting himself using the truest of statements and the greatest of realities, which remind him of his origins and his helplessness, compared to Allah’s Power and Ownership of everything.

Now, look at the result of these beautiful words!

Allah says that His Blessings and Mercy will be upon these people and He goes on to positively enforce their behavior by including them among the rightly guided. When people are in difficulty, they naturally need mental and emotional support. They need to be told comforting words and given the encouragement and morale to be able to do what’s right at the time.

We know from the famous hadith that Allah gives us hardships when He wills good for us. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: “Whenever Allah wills good for a person, He subjects him to adversity” (Bukhari).

The meaning of this hadith beautifully ties in with the meaning of the ayat mentioned above. Allah gives us hardships to test us. Then, He gives us the exact antidote to counter it. On top of that, He gives us good news upon good news. And Who else can be more Merciful than Allah?

So just read the ayat above and let the words sink in. When you say that du’a, you have Allah on your side. He is showering you with His Blessings and is enveloping you with His Mercy and is including you with the rightly-guided ones. If you have such good news, what calamity is big enough to take over the comfort you feel by knowing that Allah is with you? Because we all know that Allah is the the Greatest. He is greater than your pain, your sadness, your hardship,  and your misery. He is Able to remove it and give you comfort. So just say His Words and you’ll be fine. These blessed words work miracles-don’t take my word for it. Take Allah’s Word for it.

Six Rights of every Muslim – Shaikh ‘Abdur-Rahmaan As-Sa’dee

Tafseer of the Hadeeth of Six Rights of every Muslim

Ash-Shaikh ‘Abdur-Rahmaan As-Sa’dee’s explanation of the hadeeth regarding the Muslim’s rights Abu Hurayrah (radhiyallaahu ‘anhu) narrated that the Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said,

“The rights of the Muslim upon the Muslim are six.” It was said, “And what are they Oh Messenger of Allaah?” He replied,

“When you meet him, give him the greeting of peace,
When he invites you, respond to his invitation,
When he seeks your advice, advise him,
When he sneezes and praises Allaah, supplicate for mercy upon him,
When he becomes ills, visit him, and
When he dies follow him (i.e. his funeral).”

This hadeeth was reported by Muslim. These six rights, whoever establishes them in dealing with the Muslims, then his establishing things other than them (from the obligations) are even more important (or necessary). And his doing these things results in him fulfilling these obligations and rights, which contain an abundance of good and tremendous reward from Allaah.

The First Right:

“When you meet him, give him the greeting of peace.” For verily the greeting of peace is a cause of love, which results in producing faith (Al-Eemaan), which results in the person entering the Paradise. This is as Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa salaam) said,

“By the one in Whose Hand is my soul, you all will not enter into the Paradise until you believe, and you will not believe until you love each other. Shall I not direct you to something that if you do it, you will love each other? Spread the greeting of peace amongst yourselves.”

The greeting of peace is from the virtuous characteristics of Islaam. For verily each of the two people who meet each other supplicates for the other for safety from evils, and mercy, and blessing that brings about every good. And what follows this is a cheerful face and appropriate words of greeting which result in unity and love, and it removes feelings of estrangement and cold disassociation. Thus, giving the greeting of peace is the right of the Muslim, and it is obligatory upon the person who is greeted to return greeting with a similar greeting or o*ne that is better than it. And the best of the people are those who start the greeting of peace first.

The Second Right:

“When he invites you, respond to his invitation.” This means that when he invites you with an invitation to some food and drink, then fulfils the request of your brother who has drawn near to you and honoured you with the invitation. Respond to his invitation (i.e. accept it), unless you have an excuse.

The Third Right:

His statement, “And when he seeks your advice, advise him.” This means that if he seeks consultation with you regarding some action, as to whether he should do it or not, then advise him with that which you would like for yourself. Thus, if the action is something that is beneficial in all aspects, then encourage him to do that, and if it is something harmful, then warn him against it. And if the action contains both benefit and harm, then explain that to him and weigh the benefits against the harms. Likewise, if he consults with you concerning some dealing with someone among the people, or whether he should marry a woman off to someone, or whether he should marry someone, then extend your pure and sincere advice to him, and deal with him from the view point of what you would do for you own self. And avoid deceiving him in any matter of these things. For verily whoever deceives the Muslims, then he is not of them, and indeed he has left off the obligation of being sincere and advising. And this sincerity and advising is absolutely obligatory, however it becomes more emphasized when the person seeks your advice and he requests from you that you give him a beneficial opinion. For this reason the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa salaam) specifically mentioned it in this important situation. The explanation of the hadeeth, “The religion is sincerity”, has already been mentioned previously (in this book) in a manner that suffices without us having to repeat the discussion here.

The Fourth Right:

“And when he sneezes and praises Allaah, then pray for mercy upon him.” This is due to the fact that sneezing is a favour from Allaah, in the expelling of this congested air that is blocked in certain parts of the body of the human being. Allaah makes it easy for this air to have a passage out where it can exit, and thus the sneezing person feels relief. Thus, the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa salaam) legislated that the person praise Allaah for this favour, and he legislated for his (Muslim) brother to say to him, “May Allaah have mercy upon you.” He also commanded the person who sneezed to answer his (Muslim) brother by saying to him, “May Allaah guide you and set right your affairs.” Therefore, whoever does not praise Allaah, then he does not deserve for others to pray for mercy upon him, and in this case he cannot blame anyone except himself. For he is the o*ne who has caused himself to lose the two blessings: the blessing of praising Allaah, and the blessing of his brother’s supplication for him that is a result of the praising.

The Fifth Right:

His statement, “And when he becomes ill, visit him.” Visiting the sick is from the rights of the Muslim, and especially for the person who has a highly stressed and emphasized right upon you, like the relative, and the friend, and so forth. It is from the best of the righteous deeds. And whoever visits his Muslim brother, he remains engulfed in the mercy (of Allaah), and when he sits with him the mercy (of Allaah) covers him. And whoever visits the sick Muslim at the beginning of the day, the Angels send prayers of blessing upon him until evening comes, and whoever visits him at the end of the day, the Angels send prayers of blessing upon him until morning comes. It is desired for the person who visits the sick to supplicate for him to be cured and to make him feel at ease. He should ease his worries by giving him glad tidings of well-being and recovery (i.e. be positive). He should remind him of repentance and turning to Allaah, and he should give him beneficial admonition. He should not sit with him too long (i.e. over staying his welcome), rather he should only sit with him long enough fulfil the right of visiting, unless the sick person is positively effected by many people coming in to see him and many people coming to sit with him. Thus, for each situation there is a different statement (i.e. advice o*n how to deal with it).

The Sixth Right:

His statement, “And if he dies, follow him (his funeral).” For verily whoever follows the funeral until the deceased’s body is prayed over, then he will receive a Qeeraat of reward. (Translator’s note: A Qeeraat is an amount equivalent to the size of the Mountain of Uhud in Madinah.) And if he follows the funeral procession until the body is buried, then he will receive two Qeeraats of reward. And following the funeral procession contains (fulfilment of) a right for Allaah, a right for the deceased, and a right for the living relatives of the deceased. Ash-Shaikh ‘Abdur-Rahmaan bin Naasir As-Sa`dee (Rahimahullaah)

Source: Bahjatu Quloob il-Abraar wa Qurratu ‘Uyoon il-Akhyaar fee Jaami’ il-Akhbaar, pp. 65-67, hadeeth no. 29

Translated by: Aqeel Walker